And you expect...

Expectations! That's one thing which can change your view towards anything in a fraction of second. But the truth always is it's far away from reality. Reality is something that exists but far away from expectations. Reality breaks a hope in a second. It's the sour truth we all run away from. It's what you want from someone. Reality is tangible and a phenomenon that cannot be changed. But a truth which we all run from.

Our minds know the palpability of the thing but our heart presumes everything and wants things to be done according to his way. Expectations are far from reality. They always make an image which our heart wants and overpowers the brain. It's always makes us believe which usually cannot happen.

The best way to avoid disappointment is not to expect anything from anyone. Irony is that you know what will be the answer from opposite side then too you keep an expectation, a hope that, that person will answer you the way you want. But when reality strikes, dreams shatters and you are broken into pieces. The sense of guiltiness and being ashamed on yourself of why expecting from someone who will probably never live up to your  expectations.

Never lower your self esteem for someone who is not giving a single damn to your feelings. Never expect from a hopeless person who is there just to manipulate you and use you until he/she is done with you rather got bored with you. HOPE RATHER THAN EXPECTING! because a hope makes you live and expectations kills you to such an extent that you cannot think of!

Once Bruce Lee said "I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you are not in this world to live up to mine!" Follow this quote and world would be a better place to live in.

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Relationships

Relationships! What are they? Yes, that's a question everyone asks themselves. It has various meanings or say it it is defined by everyone according to their perspective. The way they feel. But what they really are?

Relationships are nothing but a BOND that two people hold. It's not about just being in a Love relation but it can be any, weather be it with your Mom, a relation which is the purest of all or you Dad, Sister, Brother Or any other family member OR a Friend!

Relationships defines us! If they did not existed then there is no meaning to a man's life. The feeling one holds for another is a relationship. That inclination towards anyone, that bond, that affection is a relation. Some relations cannot be defined but hold there own importance. Relations are very important to have in one's life because they make what we are, they judge what we are, they make us and they even destroy us. Sour relations can be healed only if there is a will to heal the scares from both the sides because one sided effort will do nothing unless the difference is not much.

Relationships are made by humans only. Making relationships is very easy but to survive them is not easy, it's what makes the relation strong. The best relations happens unexpectedly! Dont' let your ego ruin your relationship. SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR THESE ARE THE ONE WHICH LET US LIVE AND MAKE US ALIVE. They are the only treasures one cannot loose in there whole lifetime. Let the Love for that relation flow and make it strong, be it your girlfriend, boyfriend, mom, dad, brother, sister or any other family member OR a Friend. The bond should be real and it's not an obligation to be it with your blood relations, it can be any! After All, it's the bond that keeps the relation alive. Give your hundred percent in a relation and solve your issues if there are any with your beloved one before it finishes it all.

Relationships keep us alive. They are the only hope in our life when things get sour! A relationship is worth it all if there is love and affection from both the side. RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE GEMS, very costly and rare to find. Value them for not everyone is bestowed with them. Consider yourself lucky if you even have a single relation which is just perfect because there are people who have everyone yet they don't have a single relation to be called as 'THERE's' ! VALUE YOUR'S!

Make a relation where a fight is worth because fights are the only signs that yes, you are in a relationship, in a happy relationship because fights gives you the right to have a right on your beloved! They are the reasons that enlighten the hope to live. RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE ONLY HOPE ONE CAN HAVE.

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There is a story behind every smile!

There is a story behind every smile.

A story untold yet known to the world.

A story which only the smile knows.

A story which cannot be spoken.

A story which is buried deep inside.

A story which you’ll never know.

There is a story behind every smile!

A story which has kept you alive.

A story only the heart knows it all while.

A story which defines you.

A story which has been hidden from our personal self.

There is a story behind every smile!

Everyone has a story which they cannot tell. A dark truth which they like to hide it even from themselves. Humans are mysterious beings, more mysterious than the super natural things. They have the endurance to keep the hardest of the pains and darkest secrets. They hide it all the day but nights make them reveal the truth, it’s only we need to listen it carefully. Humans are the only creatures that God made who can hurt you while they themselves hold the similar pain. They have the strength to make you feel the pain which they have gone through.

They have mastered the art of pain either to endure it or make you feel it. They know how to hurt you even when you are already hurt. Pain defines us. It makes us strong but even weak to trust again. Pain is a teacher who teaches you a lesson. A lesson you’ll have to keep in mind all your life. Some pain even forces you to endure it with sheer silence. Humans are the creator of pain. Pain is good because it teaches you to be strong. Pain is something which teaches you how to fake a smile, how to fake a life… how to fake yourself! PAIN defines all the casualties of life. Never go on someone’s smile. It’s definitely fake for either it hides a lot of pain or lot of selfishness. you’ll rarely find people with a genuine smile because humans have lost the art how to make others smile.

PAIN IS A CHOICE. CHOOSE HAPPINESS OVER PAIN. WAIT FOR THE RIGHT TIME. LIFE WILL BE ALL YOUR’S!

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Let It Go!!

Again an Inspirational post and the one which we don't talk about. We all run away from this reality of life. Hate to talk and move on!

                              

We all have a past, a past which is full of love and a past which is full of negativity. Some have either of one or both but it's our choice which one to accept and move on. We all usually move on with the bitter memories, life has given us, the pain others gave us, filling us with negativity and hatred either towards those people or life. but we need to understand that neither of the hatred will let us live. WE NEED TO LET IT GO! LET GO THE PAST! Its sucks at any cost.

That sour past will make us negative. Clinging onto the past is not the solution ever! STOP THINKING about it. Even time won't heal if you don't stop thinking about it. The scares will vanish if YOU stop holding onto it. Forgive people and move on. It's the best way to live life. Hatred leads you to NO WHERE. It will just sabotage your outlook and make you hollow. You deserve to live, live a happy life. JUST LET IT GO!

For God's sake STOP making your loved one's life a hell just because you are not able to cope up with your past. ( i know that's rude, but you need to accept this even ) . The one's who care for you are worried and tensed , why? because you are tensed! Stop making there life hell, live and let live. They need happiness and peace and so do you! So, Stay Happy And Make Others Happy! :)

Regrets?

Stop blaming yourself for certain things. Maybe for those things where you weren't even wrong and even if you were, it's past, IT'S GONE, won't come back ever. Stop hurting yourself for the things that probably cannot be healed.

It has happened and is of no use now, you cannot do anything now, it has gone and lost. Let the shine come in your life, move away from the guilt of darkness, It's only going to darken your future and make you a shallow person with no feelings! Don't disturb your future just because your past was a disturbed one. LIVE LIFE HAPPILY!

Lost your love, friend or someone dear? Remember them but don't let there absence dominate you because if they were to be with you then they would have definitely been here ( Present ) at first place. They did not deserved you. You deserve someone way better than them!

Death has made you lose your near one? That's the phenomena of life which you cannot challenge nor question it so accept it and live with the beautiful memories spent with them and do not let there absence dominate you again. Life is short to live with regrets, make it beautiful with love and forgiveness because it's the most powerful medicine of every hatred in this world.

 

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Believe In Yourself

Hello My People! :D

Today's Blog post is all about Fashion. Fashion and you,

Through this post I want to Inspire all the Healthy, Chubby or fat people out there!

People have given us many names for being a plus size.

I'm one of you and cannot easily fit into my desired clothes. It's annoying but I'm beautiful in my own way and that's what matters the most. This post is not for only the lovely Ladies but for the plus size men out there. Hey! you all are pretty no matter what, gender doesn't matters. It's your purity and heart that matters!

Being fat doesn't means that you don't deserve anything and for being fat many of you might have been bullied in your school days or are being bullied for the same reason, if yes then let me tell you YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF and see wonders happening because when you believe in yourself only then the world believes in you!

I'm too a plus size and have issues wearing my favorite dress but I choose to wear what looks good on me and what I'am comfortable in! You should also do the same. After all you dress to impress yourself and not others! right?!!

Let people say whatever they want to say as it's there job! :P

There is this phrase in Hindi "log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna" . In the world of hypocrisy, we too say maybe unintentionally rude to others! so just think before you speak as to you maybe a victim of something! Let things go off and don't care because the main pleasure is in doing what people think you can't! ;) xD

Fashion cannot define you at any cost. If you are slim then you look good! that's not the thing, even a healthy person can look good. I don't boast about myself but definitely I'm confident enough that "yes I'm Chubby and still I'm beautiful" , you should Donne the same attitude in you.

There are other ways to look beautiful and now everyone wears everything so why be shy about clothing? there are several actresses in our Bollywood Industry who are healthy and still have there own charm, which we now call a "curvaceous body". You all are beautiful and gorgeous just be confident in what you wear and you'll rock the world. Carry yourself gracefully with loads of confident and see the world coming towards you!

I was also bullied at some point of time and still people point out at me that I'm a "FAT" and I just tell them " yes! I'm fat, but you see I'm beautiful and I carry myself gracefully with the clothes I'm comfortable in" because that's what is ME! Being ME is the most difficult task in this world. Challenge yourself and see the results all by yourself! :)

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DREAM CATCHER'S

This post is about DREAM CATCHERS, some of you might have heard about it and some of you not and some might be having one.

The other day I was on Instagram and got this follow request from a page of  Handmade Dream Catcher's ( cannot specify the name ).

I was instantly mesmerised by them and have even ordered one. 

They are cheap and are good for your room decorative.

They can be made into any form like a keyring, wall hanging, wind chimes, earrings, etc. They were rather are so beautiful and unique. They hold there own charm. Beautifully made and a lot of efforts for sure must have gone in the creation of it.

NO! they aren't Indian, they are Native American. There lies a story behind them (Read below). After getting through the Instagram page ,I searched about it on Google ( our saviour :P ) to know more about it. ( as I'm way too inquisitive about things I don't know about). There's a lot been said and told about these beautiful and awestruck creation by man. They have there own importance and here's what I came to know about them.

DREAM CATCHER

In some Native American Cultures, Dream Catcher is an handmade object based on a willow hoop, on which is woven a loose net or web. Then the Dream Catcher is decorated with some sacred items such as feathers and beads.

HISTORY & LEGEND

Dream catchers are one of the most fascinating traditions of Native Americans. The traditional dream catcher was intended to protect the sleeping individual from negative dreams, while letting positive dreams through. The positive dreams would slip through the hole in the centre of the dream catcher, and glide down the feathers to the sleeping person below. The negative dreams would get caught up in the web, and expire when the first rays of the sun struck them.

The dream catcher has been a part of Native American culture for generations. One element of Native American dream catcher relates to the tradition of the hoop. Some Native Americans of North America held the hoop in the highest esteem, because it symbolised strength and unity. Many symbols started around the hoop, and one of these symbols is the dream catcher.

DREAM CATCHER LORE

Native Americans believe that the night air is filled with dreams both good and bad. The dream catcher when hung over or near your bed swinging freely in the air, catches the dreams as they flow by. The good dreams know how to pass through the dream catcher, slipping through the outer holes and slide down the soft feathers so gently that many times the sleeper does not know that he/she is dreaming. The bad dreams not knowing the way get tangled in the dream catcher and perish with the first light of the new day.

HOW THE DREAM CATCHER IS MADE?

Using a hoop of willow, and decorating it with findings, bits and pieces of everyday life, (feathers, arrow heads, beads, etc) the dream catcher is believed to have the power to catch all of a person’s dreams, trapping the bad ones, and letting only the good dreams pass through the dream catcher.

WHAT IS A DREAM CATCHER?

Dream catchers are arts and crafts of the Native American people. The original web dream catcher of the Ojibwa was intended to teach natural wisdom. Nature is a profound teacher. Dream catchers of twigs, sinew, and feathers have been woven since ancient times by Ojibwa people. They were woven by the grandfathers and grandmothers for newborn children and hung above the cradle board to give the infants peaceful, beautiful dreams. The night air is filled with dreams. Good dreams are clear and know the way to the dreamer, descending through the feathers. The slightest movement of the feathers indicated the passage of yet another beautiful dream. Bad dreams, however, are confused and confusing. They cannot find their way through the web and are trapped there until the sun rises and evaporates them like the morning dew.

Originally the Native American dream catcher was woven on twigs of the red willow using thread from the stalk of the stinging nettle. The red willow and twigs from other trees of the willow family, as well as red twig dogwood can be found in many parts of the United States. These twigs are gathered fresh and dried in a circle or pulled into a spiral shape depending upon their intended use. They used natural feathers and semi-precious gemstone, one gemstone to each web because there is only one creator in the web of life.

DREAM CATCHER RITUAL CEREMONY

There are many ways to celebrate a dream catcher. It is suggested that you initiate your dream catcher through a ritual ceremony. Rituals have great meaning and can put your mind and thoughts into action. Your dream catcher can become one with your feelings and perform the way you want it to.

Once you have decided where to hang your dream catcher, it is time to perform the ceremony that will enable it to work properly in your home or living space.

It is suggested that for the ceremony sage is lit and its smoke is used to cleanse the house. With the sage letting out its smoke, offer up a prayer for your dream catcher and what you wish for it to bless your home. Become one with the dream catcher and allow yourself to visualise what the dream catcher is there to protect. End your ceremony by thanking your dream catcher and feel it ready to bless your home.

You are ready to place your dream catcher in the chose spot to hang over and protect your home, family, or thoughts. You may choose to celebrate your dream catcher in this way or through other ways by your own choosing. There is an ancient ritual of the dream catcher called, Smudging. This is a powerful way to initiate and bless your dream catcher. However you choose to perform your ceremony of hanging a dream catcher, make sure you are one with it so it may work the best for you.

MY TAKE ON DREAM CATCHER's:

I believe one should be an owner of a Dream Catcher. They are a charm. The positivity they bring is something every one of us need. I’m not asking to be pessimist or believe in super natural powers but just a deviation from pessimism. They are something that can fresh in our mood because they are so beautiful and loving. Gives us the vibes of being optimist and fun loving. In today’s fast forward world where lives have lost in between competition, dream catchers are the ultimate way to rejuvenate your self. Life’s short so why regret, move on and get a dream catcher and live life to the fullest.

Dreams! They have kept us alive. They are the only hope in our lives. From day dreaming to night dreaming, they come whenever they want and vanish within a fraction of seconds. Dreaming is the goal to success. If you don’t dream you cannot reach your desired goals. It’s fascinating and mesmerising. Dreams are the one which makes us live our life. Without dreams life would be hallow. Every one of us Dreams. Some dream to be big and some to gain big. Everyone has their own dreams. Some are negative and some are positive but the common thing is that we all dream. For no dreams, there is no life. You Dream once, live once, regret once, so rather than regretting dream and live your life. for only one dream can change your entire life. One dream can change your life, so DREAM, dream to live.

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Out of DIFFICULTIES grow MIRACLES !

DON'T LOOSE HOPE; WHEN THE SUN GOES DOWN,THE STARS COME OUT.

There is a ray of hope in every aspect of life.

In the wildest of dreams and in the darkest of nights.

hope has kept all of us ALIVE!

Always be Optimistic in Life.

Living with hope at every step and decisions we make has kept us awake.

Hope is something everyone needs.

Hope is the only way to remain intact to ourselves and not loose "being us"

A student should not leave hope when he is detained. There are new comings in life and should be ready to accept it.

FAILURE CANNOT EVER DETERMINE ONE'S FUTURE AND CHARACTER!

Love and accept all for you never know when YOU NEED HOPE!!

Failure in any field is not the last thing ,their is still HOPE, for their is a new day and new ray of hope waiting for you ,you just have to identify and accept it.

HOPE IS AN ANCHOR FOR THE SOUL.

If a flower can bloom on a barren land then why cannot Man move on and start a fresh?

Ups and downs are a part of life. They only make us strong and give us the endurance to handle it.

Your love left you? Oh No! That's NOT the reason ever to loose hope in life and end your life. NEVER!

Move on!! though it takes time, BUT YOU CAN and YOU SHOULD.

BECAUSE YOU'RE WORTH IT.

Life has always stored in something great for you always, no matter what! the only thing one should realize is, time gives happiness to some, early and to some late but everyone gets their part of happiness not now but DEFINITELY tomorrow, YOU JUST HAVE TO WAIT FOR THE 'TOMORROW' but never loose hope as this hope is the only thing that can keep you alive. And cherish all the moments lived till then because failures in anything FOR SURE ARE TO KEEP YOU STRONG AND NOT YO LET YOU DOWN in anyway!

DON'T LOOSE HOPE FOR YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT TOMORROW WILL BRING.

It's just matter of TIME and not you. Today it's someone else's ,tomorrow it will be YOUR'S.

As they say "PATIENCE IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS".

YES! That's true. Have patience and keep the hope alive in you.

Small ray of hope can be the strongest of all. Time heals its all.

Urge to grow faster is a demon creeping into you have faith in God,trust him and he will never let you down.

HOPE IS NOT A DREAM BUT A WAY OF MAKING DREAMS BECOME REALITY.

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NEEDS and WANTS

We all are lost in between needs and wants. What are needs? What are wants? A question that all of us ask ourselves. We all are running after our wants and losing our needs. Wants are becoming the reason to survive and happiness whereas need which is the basics of life has lost somewhere in the growing wants.

Need is something for the sustainability of life whereas wants are mere desires. We cannot overcome our desires until we are determined to do so.

For example, Products of apple (the brand) is a want and an apple (the fruit) is a need but still we crave for our want and not the need.

Life's a maze where people find the way out to there wants.

In the struggling world people want WANTS and not the NEEDS.

From where do the wants arise?

Competition to be the best and the superior most leads us to wants. Urge to be like the celebrated people and revealing the best of ours is just a want and not a need.

NEED IS BEING YOU AND BELIEVING  YOURSELF.

Money! It's the BIGGEST WANT people 'want' to chase it. Money, leads to every other want.

Wants have overtaken us to such a extent that turning back has become next to impossible. Growing wants are eating up the man's humanity. WANTS ARE KILLING IT ALL.

Even being a Blogger is a WANT and not NEED. I ACCEPT IT. I'm one of you and I'm also running after WANTS and not NEEDS. Need even is not much specified in my writing because somewhere it is left with no meaning and lost in the darkness called WANT!

NEED : Basics to sustain Life.

WANT : Desires to live Life.

' khuwaishein aaj itni hai ki zarooraton ko bhula baitha hai insaan,

Zarooratein toh khuda ki nemat hai, khuwaishein insaan ki chah'



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The Realization...

The realization of when you know death can happen anytime. 

There is always a fear that the end is near. Fear of losing it all, the fear of losing your dreams. The fear of being finished.The beautiful future you had it in you. The future you always dreamt of.

Poor dreamt of riches. Hunger dreamt of food. Lonliness dreamt of love. The fear of losing it all.

After the earthquake struck on 25th of April 2015 in Nepal, the whole Northern India also felt the tremors. I was one of them who felt it. I was lying on the ground when the earth shook. The feel was from heart, it was not as horrifying as a ghost even, it was way more than that. It was deadly. The instant fear that crept in me was DEATH. MY DREAMS, where will they all go? I want to live. Live to fulfill my dreams and goals.

Oh Good Lord please be gracious upon us and bless us and help all those who suffered.. was my first prayer to My God. The instant effect was not so good. Death! It has to happen and it will happen.  The universal truth which even man cannot come over. One thing probably which science cannot come over. Then why we all have forgotten this? The truth is always in front of us yet we act blind. We know it can come anytime yet we are so casual.

Busy in today's modern and fast forward world we all have forgot the real essence of life. And that is LIFE!  We have forgot how to live and enjoy life. Admist all this the life itself might be wanting to live. But we all are just breathing and not living. Breathing for the happy future. Life's lost in the growing demands of an individual.

Live your present, make it beautiful because you don't know your future. Running after it makes your present sour. LIVE IT NOW or REGRET IT LATER that the past was painful and burdening your remaining life with bitterness and hatred in hearts.

Death is a phenomenon that has to happen but till then let's live as if there's no tomorrow.

'Ek bhina bhina sa ehsaas mann ko jab chua ke maut toh kabhi bhi aa sakti hai.. tab jaa ke ehsaas hua hum toh yaha musafir hai yaaro jo dhundhe apni manzil ka pata...'

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The Distant Man

There's a man who is distant. Distant from his inner self. He lives for his family, his wife and kids. Admist all things he forgot to LIVE his OWN LIFE. Responsibilities have made him harsh. The increasing demands of the kids have made him sour. He has stopped living, just breathing for his family's sake. He wants to live but cannot.

There's this man who is distant. He didn't get the perks a man gets. Had to work since he was not even 17. Family pressures made him loose himself yet he is living.

Sacrificed his life for his loved one's yet not valued by anyone. He's taken for granted by those whom he considers his soul. He is living yet not alive.

He wants a chance for his own life.

There's this man who is distant. For family he didn't get education but giving his children the best of it. Want them to grow only one day to support him when his knees bent and life's on end.

He's conscious to stand up in crème and dine in 5star but gives his children such ethics to stand between them.

He is forgotten amongst all. He is the one who does all. Yet he isn't praised ever.

Are women only who do it all? Where's the man lost who made it all!?

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